An Auckland man was naturally distraught to find his 45 year-old wife having sex with the 19 year-old South American international student that they were hosting (well, let’s be honest, charging rent and board). I’ll let the NZ Herald take it from here.

The North Shore man – who did not want to be named – said he had contacted police after his wife’s encounter with the 19-year-old South American, but was told they were powerless to help as the student was legally an adult.

“I’m at a total loss about what to do in such a situation and I’m bloody angry,” the North Shore man told the Herald….”We really need to know what we can do in such situations, and I’ve suggested they add it to their pastoral care code. Is this something international students should be allowed to get away with?”

As a service to the MOE and the Community (I could get a gong for this sort of thing), I have drafted some suggested changes to the Code of Practice.

New Clause 4.5.(a) Mr X of the North Shore has requested that international students do not have sex with his wife if they are staying at his house, or even if they meet her through a TradeMe forum. This is not a legal requirement, but it would save the MOE from having to respond to his silly complaints. Cheers!

FAQs

I host international students and want to be sure that they get the message that sex is not on offer at our place. Can the MOE Help? The MOE has a handy card listing what can and can’t be done at the homestay. This used to cover smoking and similar matters but now has options for sex with the hosts (yes, no, maybe, only as a group). Alternatively, we can list you in the Code, just like Mr X of the North Shore. You’ll find a link to the request form at the bottom of the page.

What should I do it I find my spouse having sex with an adult homestay student? The MOE does not normally offer relationship advice, but over a morning coffee we came up with four suggestions: (1) Be calm and try to talk things through with your spouse. (2) Walk out, or kick out your spouse (and the student). (3) Join in. (4) Maybe don’t host the hot Brazilian student.

Is is true that the Police can’t arrest foreigners for having sex with Kiwi women? I’d really like someone else to deal with my relationship problems with my wife. No, the Police can’t arrest the student, but you could always kick the student out of your house, like you would with a Kiwi doing the same thing.

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